How rude?

Today at work we were allowed to wear sports outfits instead of our usual work uniform. I have a certain sports tshirt on that is clearly tight around my pregnant body. Normally I wear our work jacket to cover up my pregnant body. I haven’t witness any rude comments up until today. And I’m sure more will come. 

The maintenance guy came to complete the ticket I had submitted a week ago to change out the dead light bulbs. I noticed he kept starring at me. He hasn’t been around our store for a few months so he doesn’t know that I’m expecting. Out of nowhere he asked me, “So are you really bloated or are you actually pregnant?” 

I stopped and looked at him and felt very uncomfortable but responded with a smirk and “yeah I’m pregnant” and walked away. As I was walking away he decided to try and ease the tension by responding with, “oh I really like little babies” 

I didn’t know what to say after that, so I picked up the company phone and pretended to help a customer over the phone.

I’m 6 months pregnant and actually I do just look like I may have ate to much at the buffet. I feel/look a lot smaller then I should be. But still, that doesn’t mean that you can ask someone if they are FAT or just PREGNANT! 

me…6 months preggos!

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Maternity Leave

So I’m currently working for a company that doesn’t really offer maternity leave! They’re making me go through loops and holes to get any type of leave.

Here’s the break down

  • I can’t take leave before the baby comes. I’d have to request vacation time for that if I need time off.
  • I can only submit short term disability through the state starting the day I give birth. Short term disability from the state only gives up to six weeks off with pay.
  • If I want more time than six weeks I’d have to request for vacation time again, if I still have any left over. (Total vacation hours my company gives within a year is 80 hours, that’s 2 weeks)
  • If I want more time than that, I can take an unpaid leave of absence for up to a year.

So, all in all of what’s listed above, it seems like I’d only get about eight weeks off with baby! Eight weeks is only two months!!! šŸ˜± That’s just ridiculous!!!! I’m appalled that the “corporation” that I work for doesn’t offer more.

How did you moms to be go about getting maternity leave?

How long were you out of work?

And out of all the time out of work, how much of that was actual paid time off?

Cloth DiapersĀ 

Hi Moms and Moms to be

How do you feel about cloth diapers? I’m going to be completely honest with you…I haven’t done actual research on it, so please don’t bash me on this one! And my intention is to get the knowledge from other mothers as well, and not make it a controversial subject.

So how does this all work? I understand that it’s supposed to be cost effective and eco friendly, but how does it work? How is it cleaned to be reused again? In my head (because I haven’t really done the research) to clean it, you just throw it in the washer? But doesn’t that mean that all the poo is gonna be all over my washer and other items I wash with it? And wouldn’t it also clog up the pipes? But even if we’re supposed to clean it off before we throw it in the washer, how would you do that? Rinse it in the sink or tub? Wouldn’t that also clog up the pipes? Or even if we’re supposed to use napkins or wipes to clean it before we throw it in the wash, how is that Eco friendly cause it’s more trash and double the work?

I’m just confused on the whole experience. I’ve asked my other friends that are mothers and they say even though it’s cost efficient and Eco friendly, they still use diapers. I don’t mind trying it out to see how it helps me, knowing that I’ll be out of work for a few months.

Please comment on your experience or educate me on this subject. I’m sorry if I made it seem rude or mean in anyway, that wasn’t my intention. Thank you.

Breastfeeding

How does everyone feel about woman breastfeeding in public. It’s become a real  controversial subject around the world, it seems just as recently. Why is that?! Woman have been breastfeeding for hundreds of thousands of years and so why now is it such a big deal? I’m sure the people who have something to say were also breastfeed when they were a child. I just don’t see the point to have anything negative to say about something that is needed and natural to human life! 

This society is just filled with sexuality and pervertedness, that it’s OK for breast to be a sexual symbol but it’s not OK to be a HEALTH symbol. If it’s OK for woman to be walking around half naked showing off their breast, then why isn’t it OK for woman to feed their hungry baby, which in reality the breast is covered?!

Let me tell you that I’m 22 weeks pregnant with my first child at 30 years old. And I am for sure planning on breastfeeding my baby! And I don’t care what anyone has to say to me! 

Finally!

I tilted this first blog “Finally” because I’m gonna tell you about my life leading up to finally getting pregnant. It’s kind of sad but it’s human nature.

Many years ago when I was 18, I had  severe lower right side pain. My mom rushed me to that hospital because it was so severe that I could barely walk, I couldn’t cough, or sneeze without screaming in pain. I was in the emergency room for 7 hours while they ran test after test. And after being in there for 7 hours, they couldn’t find anything wrong! They made an appointment with my OBGYN for the following morning and released me!

The following morning at my OBGYN appointment, my doctor took his own test. He came to the conclusion that I had cyst wrapped around my right and left ovaries. That’s probably why the emergency room couldn’t find anything. He sent me home with medications to take that should have minimized or got rid of the cyst. Unfortunately, the medication didn’t work. A week later I went under the knife to have my cyst surgically removed. During my post operation visit, my doctor ran more test to see if everything was cleared out. Unfortunately it wasn’t. But this time he found that I had abnormal cervical cells that needed to be treated before it spread and turned cancerous. Every three months I went in for treatment. I can’t remember exactly what these treatments where called but I can remember the pain and what was being done. My doctor would “scrape” cells off my cervix every three months.

Shortly after my surgery to remove my cyst, I got pregnant. Everything was looking good. One day before I hit three months of being pregnant, my doctor told me it’d be medically best for me to abort the baby. This was to reduce any complications for me or the child during pregnancy and birth since I was also going through the “scraping” treatment on my cervix. I agreed to have the medical abortion and continue with the treatments.

I then moved to another state after my treatments turned into just a yearly check up. By this time I was 21. I looked for a new doctor where I moved to, but didn’t actually go to the doctors for awhile. When I did decide to go back to the doctors, it was just to get birth control. I got the IUD inserted at age 22. I went to my yearly check ups and everything was the same. My cervical cells were still abnormal, but no changes or spreading had happened, so no treatment was needed. 

Fast forward five years when it was time to remove my IUD at age 27. By this time I was in a serious relationship and we were talking about getting engaged. We did get engaged and started talking about starting a family. While engaged, I did get pregnant but had a miscarriage about a month after finding out I was pregnant. We then decided to hold off on starting our family until we officially got married. After getting married a year later, we were starting again. But after a visit with my OBGYN to see if everything was ok, family making was once again put on hold. My doctor found that my previous treatments years ago had failed. This time the abnormal cervical cells doubled and spread to the point where he had to treat me right away and told me I’d have to wait on making a family for another six months to year to be save! He went ahead with the treatment “cryotherapy” or “cryosurgery”. That’s when they freeze the cervix almost to the point of an icicle. It was really painful. A few months after the treatment I found out I was pregnant. This time my doctors took extra care of me by doing test every other day to check my hormones to see if it was doubling as it should be in a normal pregnancy. My blood showed I was pregnant, but ultrasounds showed nothing. During a normal ultrasound, the technician saw that I had a mass on my right side. She also seen internal bleeding. She immediately sent me to see my doctor. My doctor told me that I had an ectopic pregnancy that had ruptured my right Fallopian tube and I had to have an emergency surgery to remove the tube and stop the bleeding. Unfortunately, the baby could not be saved in any way. Surgery went well. And I was back to work two weeks after that. During my post operation visit my doctor also cleared me for abnormal cervical cells, for now.

Fast forward four months after surgery. I found out I was pregnant, again. Once again my doctors took extra care with me. Every other day for two weeks I had to do blood test to check if my hormones were doubling like a normal pregnancy. This time it was. And my doctor cleared me for a normal pregnancy. I’ve gone to my first trimester and second trimester screening test and everything is normal. 

I am now 22 weeks pregnant with a baby girl and due on/around May 22. 

Continuing with this blog will be all my first as a first time mom. If you’ve read it before on another blog or story, or heard what I have to say from another mom…its normal. It’s something that just happens. I’m just going through all this for my first time as a 30 year old! Hopefully I can help someone with their first baby. Or possibly someone can read my blog and comment to help me out too.